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A Beam of Light, In This Dark World.

They Meant It For My Harm, But God Used It For My Good!

Have you ever noticed that when you’re successful and prospering in life people will give you a hard time for no reason? When you have a calling on your life and other people see it, they will try to do anything in their power to push you down an destroy your spirits. I’ve had this done to me by so called friends, co workers, or even family. Sometimes even when I didn’t realize I had any special gifts or talents, people would try to push me down. They did this all because they saw something that I couldn’t even see yet and they were intimidated. This post hit my spirit last night while I watched Cars 3 with my son. I won’t spoil the movie in case you guys haven’t seen it yet but it teaches a valuable lesson. One of the cars that always seemed like a underdog and was constantly put down, came back and won a championship for the team. People had put her down for years only because they never wanted all the hidden talent in her to come out. Sometimes people will put you down out of envy instead of elevating themselves. This is especially true if you are from a small town. Most people who want to elevate and be successful have to leave that town to be successful and expect that crabs in the barrel mentality. As children of God, it seems like we face even more scrutiny from people at times. You could do absolutely nothing to a person, but they just don’t like you because they are jealous. I remember growing up I would hear girls says “I don’t like her because she thinks she’s all that”. In reality they probably thought the girl was all that, but instead of telling her they chose to express hate and pick with her. Sometimes when I go through things like this I wonder why, but then I remember God is in control. To make this lesson personal, at my current job a lot of times they give me a hard time. They knit pick my work way too much and give me more duties than any other member of my team. Then I’m told that I can’t make more than a co worker that doesn’t even have a degree when in four short months, I’ll complete my Masters in Finance. Sometimes its frustrating and one day I wanted to give up and God spoke to me and said, “What they meant for your harm, I will use for your good.” I’ve been holding on to those words every since. I’m still in this situation. I don’t know how God will work it out, but I know he will. This situation along with the movie last night, taught me a valuable lesson. People can try all they like to stop your destiny, but they cannot curse what God has already blessed. The winning car in the movie had been talked down to for years and told she couldn’t race. In the end all those mean words and scrutiny was meant to defeat her, but in the end, that was used as motivation to help her win a hard race. I don’t know what you guys could be going through out there but I’m here to tell you, whatever someone is using for your harm, God is going to turn it around for your good. The bible tells us that ALL things work for the good of them who love God. So whatever you could be facing this morning, stay encouraged. Your situation is going to turn around sooner than you think!

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

Temporary Provision

Why is it that we expect everything in life to be permanent? Remember in middle school when you had your first real crush and you just knew y’all would be together forever? Sometimes people and places hold such a special place in our hearts, we don’t know how to let them go. Have you ever heard someone say oh I can’t leave my hometown, this is my city? These feelings are all natural but they don’t factor in one thing, and that’s growth. Many times God provides us with temporary provision. Meaning things and people he uses to help us grow and teach us lessons in certain seasons. The problem comes when we try to hold on to these temporary things and not accept that it is time to let them go. Nine times out of ten we know when we’ve outgrown something. You used to love your job but now its become so routine and something tells you you should be looking for better? You used to love your significant other but lately it feels like you’re dealing with a child? The reason why is simple, you outgrown those situations. For example, take the building of a house. If scaffolding is placed on a house, it cannot stay there forever. It serves a vital role for a time but if it stays forever, the house will never be all it was meant to be. Even if the Bible we see evidence of temporary provision. When the Isrealites were on their way to the promise land, God provided them with manna. This manna was supposed to be temporary but they got too comfortable with it and couldn’t let it go. I saw all of this to say, if you feel a tug in your spirit that you need to move on from something, then do it. Leave that relationship, that job, the church. Whatever it is. The work God needed you to do there is done, and if you want all God has for you, when he tells you to go you need to go. Remember, God never takes anything from us without replacing it with something better. We are supposed to be always growing, not standing still being complacent or afraid. Know that where you are, is not your final destination. God wants to take you farther than you could ever imagine! Let go of the dead weight, and go get God’s best!

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

Let’s Be Honest….

This will probably be the most honest and personal blog post I’ve ever done. I’m doing this blog post because a lot of times we are not honest with ourselves, we lie to ourselves and try to cover up our true feelings. I do this way too much, anyone that knows me personally, knows I rarely ever express my feelings. Well lately I had to be honest with myself about some things and I chose to share them, in hopes you will be honest with yourself as well. So yesterday my son turned four years old and I should have been so happy right. Well to be honest yesterday morning I was kind of down, but let me explain why. I took the day off from work to celebrate with my son, just the two of us. I surprised him at school that afternoon with cake and ice cream for all his friends and I got him gifts. So as I was driving to school to surprise my son, I was talking to God. I wasn’t questioning God , but just thinking, why am I raising my son alone. Am I even really strong enough to do this? Why didn’t my son have a large family around him on his birthday? Would he feel sad it was just me and him? Most of my family members live in other cities so it was and is always really just us. He’s my bestfriend, right behind God. Whenever you petition God, he will always send you an answer. Many times we may not like the answer God gives, but he will give us one nonetheless. This feeling combined with all the other things I had been dealing with lately, had be feeling kind of discouraged. Like am I a good mom? Right after that God sent me an answer. Let me first say God can speak to us in many ways, through dreams, other people, speaking to us himself, but we have to be sensitive to his voice. So once I got inside my son’s school and got to his class, I saw him sitting there looking and waiting with his friends to see if I was gonna bring the cake like I promised. Once he saw me his face just lit up! I was so thankful to God that I was able to do this for him. We had a nice time with his friends and they were all so excited. So one of the older ladies that works inside my sons school, came up and spoke to me because she saw us celebrating. She’s not my sons teacher so I had really only ever spoken to her in passing. She went on to have a conversation with me. She told me she always sees me dropping my son off and picking him up and that she admired me. She said I reminded her so much of herself when she was younger. She had also been a single mom but she was raising three kids alone. She told me “you always make a way to come through for your kids”, and she said “God sees what you go through”. She went on to tell me, “Just know that God’s got you, and he will keep you strong”. I’m not sure if she knew how much those words meant to me. God was telling me then he put me in this situation because he knew I was strong enough to handle it and that he has his hands on me and my son. I say all this to say, in this season I believe God has been teaching me to depend on him and him only. I have truly learned that. Since I moved to this city, I have felt isolated, but I also know God put me here for a reason and I have grown so much! I have learned that elevation requires isolation and in this moment that I feel the most isolated, I know God is getting ready to elevate me. I’m ready to branch out and do something new, and I believe God is leading me into a new season. I am hopeful that new season will come with a new city, but I trust God’s timing. This week made me be honest with myself and accept the fact that I feel alone. Once I was honest with myself I felt so much better. Is it some emotion you are suppressing? Are you not being honest with yourself? Embrace those feelings today. Get the lesson God is trying to teach you so you can go to the next level. Suppressed emotions will only frustrate you and keep you depressed and anxious. So, with all that said, let’s be honest. Please leave me some comments. What do you need to be honest about?

Thanks forĀ  Reading,

J.M.

Thank God For Those Unanswered Prayers Too!

We all have prayers and petitions up before God. We all should be thanking him for every answered prayer he grants us. But, what about those prayers that don’t get answered? You know like that man you prayed about that ended up being no good but you couldnt see it at the time. Or what about that job you prayed about but the company closed six months after you applied. Sometimes God doesn’t answer our prayers because he is protecting us from certain things. At the time we may not be able to see that or we may be see preoccupied in our mind we don’t want to see it. The older I get, the more I realized how God is and has always been ordering my steps. Everything happens to you for a reason. Every person God brings into your life has a purpose. God looks at the big picture but we just look at right now. If he would have granted you that request, it would have hurt you more than helped you and God loves you too much to let that happen. I remember earlier this year I was contemplating on buying a house. All of my friends and family were saying buy a house, why rent. In the beginning I was praying to God and asking him to give me a house but you know I am so glad he never granted that request. I realize now that was more responsibility than I was ready to take on. Then the neighborhood I was looking in in the beginning, turned out not to be so safe. I was praying to God one night during my prayer and asking him if I should buy and house and God told me “no”. A lot of times if we would take the time to talk to God, we would know why our prayers weren’t answered. Maybe that was not God’s will for your life. Maybe he wants to give you something better. God allows certain doors to close in life the same way he allows certain ones to open. So remember this the next time you are thanking God for the doors he opened for you. Thank him for the ones he never allowed to open because you have no idea what he just protected you from.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

Know Your Breaking Point!

Why is it that we knit pick people? Why do we continuously do things to people we know we would not want done to us? Why do we take advantage of people we know that care for us or that we feel won’t speak up? This is a common thing that is done in society. You see this happening even with children at school. How the quiet nerd is always picked on because they feel he or she wont react. This happens in our careers. Some people in your office may knit pick you to the point that you snap. This happens even in our romantic relationships. Someone could take you for granted and push you to a point that you no longer care. People are going to continue to do things like this, there is nothing you can do about it. You can’t control the actions and thought of other people, but you can control yours. I say all of this to say, Know YOUR breaking point. Know when it is time for you to walk away from a situation. This could be any situation, a friendship, relationship, job, living situation, ect. Know how much you can take. We all know when we are getting mentally and emotionally exhausted with a situation. When you get this feeling, try to have a talk with the person or people and let them know what is going on. If this doesn’t work, at all costs try to remove yourself from the situation before you snap. If you don’t feel strong enough to remove yourself, pray and ask God for forgiveness. Jesus was mocked his whole lifetime but he still asked his father to forgive those people who mocked him. He said “They know not what they do”. Forgive whoever has hurt you and pushed you to this point. Forgive them but move on. If you have a conversation with someone and express that you are unhappy with a situation, and they dont change, trust me they don’t value you. Most of the times people know when they are giving you a hard time. But most of the time they don’t care or they think they can just run all over you. People will use you up and then act like you are crazy or wrong when you snap. I say you should know your breaking point because some of us can take more than others. Then when we do snap we all mostly do or say things we will regret. So before you get to this point leave. Being hurt all the time isnt normal. Someone putting you down all the time isnt normal. Waking up everyday dreading going to work isnt normal. If you have that gut instinct to make changes, do so. Because when you do snap and speak those hurtful words, they cannot be taken back.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

Bad Company, Always Corrupts Good Character.

Why does it seem like the worse people treat us, the more we want to stay around and prove that we are a good person? Why do we choose to sit around negativity and think it would affect us later? It seems like we known people are negative and that they aren’t good for us, but yet we still want to be around them. Personally I’d rather be alone than associate with people that don’t live a positive and uplifting lifestyle. If you go to work everyday and sit next to someone that is lazy, a under achiever, and a complainer, I’ll give you less than thirty days before you start to show some of the same traits. If you go to lunch everyday with people that only have bad things to say about the boss and the company, I give you two weeks before you start to think and say those same negative things. If you hang with someone who steals, don’t be surprised when thoughts of stealing come to your mind. Many of us know the people we are hanging with are toxic but yet we still hang with them out of fear of being alone. This is people bondage. I understand that all of us want to feel like we belong and that we are not an outcast but I’d rather be an outcast than in bad company. This is even true for kids. I remember when I was in school it seemed that all the cool kids that misbehaved had the most friends. But where are all those people now? Not making anything out of their lives. If you want something that will change your life, separate yourself from that negativity. By no means should you be rude to these people but just start to spend less and less time with them. If you’re partner is negative at work, ask your boss to move your seat. Stop going to lunch with those negative people. Go eat alone in your car. I know many of us fear being alone. Trust me, I get it. I used to have the same fear. Once you get in your mind that you are doing the right thing, and you get used to eliminating the wrong people from your life, you will become stronger. Once you become totally happy alone, you will never hesitate to cut anyone off if they jeopardize that happiness. Please eliminate that bad company before you look up, at it has corrupted your character. You’ll never be successful keeping mediocre company.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

This Little Light of Mine…..

I chose this title for this blog because we all remember this song as a child. Most of us our mothers or grandmothers probably sung it to us as we sung along not knowing the true meaning. That little song had such a huge meaning. As the scripture says above, let your light shine before men so that they may see your good works and glorify my father in Heaven. Most of us as Christians are missing that. We don’t care about letting our light shine, all we care about is ourselves and what blessings we can get. This post hit my spirit today as I sat in a church service. I visited a new church today with my friend. The message was great but some things I watched people in the congregation do, could have turned someone away from Christ if they were a brand new christian or a visitor like I was. I watched them be upset over people spilling crumbs on the floor, luckily I did not let my son take any snacks today. Then I watched them want the noise level controlled so it would be perfect for their online broadcast. Then a person I saw in the congregation although I did not know her personally, I had seen her out quite a few times. The times I saw her out, her behavior did not at all reflect the light of Jesus Christ, but yet she was the first one in the church shouting this morning. I give all of these examples to say this. None of these people let their light shine this morning. They were not focused on how God was going to move in the service. They drove to church in their nice cars, to sit in this nice building, in their nice outfits but never once cared about saving a soul today. Many of us make this mistake, we are human we get selfish at times. But I can say this about myself. Even when things aren’t going right, I go out and put a smile on and treat everyone with respect, I try to make sure my light is shining at all times. I want my life to look so good, that people say wow, how can I live like that? I say all this to say, Is your light shinning? Can people look at you in or outside the church and see God’s love on you? If not I would strongly suggest you make some changes. Do you know how many people ruin witnesses daily and they dont even realize it? I once had someone tell me they didnt believe in God. I asked the person why. They told me because every person they ever met that identified as a Christian was so nasty and negative. That broke my heart. Please be cautious about the things that you are doing and saying and just the way that you are carrying yourself. Once we broadcast that we are living for Jesus, the world is holding us to a higher standard. We are put here to save souls not just turn them willingly to the devil. Just keep this in mind tomorrow when you walk out the door. Walk out with the attitude, that I’m going to let my little light shine regardless of what is going on behind it.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

The Power of YOUR Words!

Do you really know how much power your words hold? According to Google, the average person speaks almost 20,000 words per day. So many chances to speak life during the day. I recently started reading this book by Dr. Caroline Leaf called “Switch on Your Brain”. This book really opened my eyes to so much. Our mind is really powerful. All of our words start in our mind. From there they then become words. If you can first control your thoughts then you can control your words. When God created us, he gave us the same power that he has. Meaning we can speak life with just our words or we can speak death. When God said “Let there be light, the light appeared”. This means that you can say, “Let there be, ___” and whatever you speak will be. Most of us say words with meaning behind them and never even realize it. We keep saying bad things and wonder why only negative things keep happening to us. Do you really realize the power you have? Do you really realize the things you can do or call forth if you really wanted to? You are suffering with that illness because in your mind you are thinking you will never get well. You’re spending all this time suffering when you could just speak the words over your body, your job, your finances and things could change, just like that! Most of us walk around speaking negatively and wonder why nothing seems to be going our way. I dare you to change what you are putting into your mind and that will then change the words that are coming from your mouth. If you change this words, your life will turn around before you know it. When you start to speak these positive words, speak them into others people’s lives as well. Speak them over your kids, your coworkers and just watch how things change. Many of us are suffering right now with a situation and God is already giving us the authority to change it. Step into this authority. Change your thoughts and then change your words. By changing your words you will then change your life.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

Don’t Be So Hard On Yourself! You’re Doing Just Fine! (Feeling So Sad?)

Why are we so hard on ourselves? In reality, we are our own worth enemies. The world does enough tearing us down as it is why do we also do this to ourselves? I try to make it a point to be kind to everyone I meet just because we do not know what people are dealing with in their personal lives or even in their head. Anxiety is a real serious issue that many people have that are too hard on themselves. I can tell you this because I’ve been depressed before, I’ve felt anxious before. That feeling when you care too much about everything but still have no strength to get out of bed. Then you ask yourself why am I feeling so sad for no reason? Trust me, I’ve been there. I am here to tell you that if you are there now, you don’t have to stay there. Everyone of us has gone through something or you may be currently going through something. No matter what your situation may be tonight, trust me when I say God is the answer. He can do anything! I mean anything! Ask him for his help, don’t try to carry those problems alone. Also while you are praying and seeking God, don’t be afraid to seek profession help. There is nothing wrong with talking to a therapist if you do not want to talk to someone you know. Trust me you will feel so much better. Even if you’ve made a mistake or a poor choice still don’t be hard on yourself. God forgives again and again. He is not looking for perfect performance, he wants your heart to be perfect towards him. Know that in this life you will fail, and you will disappoint people and yourself, and that’s okay. As long as you know you are giving 100 percent, know that is all that matters. The devil likes to play these tricks with our mind to make us feel inferior and keep us down with things such as anxiety and depression. Know that God can take those feelings from you and heal you if you ask him. He is only waiting for you to seek his help with the problem. Just remember that God loves you and nothing you can do or not do can earn his love, it is given freely to all. So love yourself with that same love, ease up and allow yourself to make a few mistakes. Sometimes it takes going a few steps down the wrong road to help you realize the right one exists.

A few tips for overcoming anxiety and depression:

  1. Pray and Seek God
  2. Stay Busy
  3. Hit the gym
  4. Talk to Someone
  5. Ignore the Negative Comments of Others

These are just a few tips to overcome some negative emotions, I hope they help you. Please feel free to drop me any questions or comments on this topic. Also check out the links on my home page and follow me on social media.

Thanks for Reading,

J.M.

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